Biscornu Exchange and Comment Catchup
May 22, 2006 at 11:17 AM
by Ashleigh
Biscornu received from Melissa (SoCalStitcher)Look at this! Isn't it gorgeous? I don't know if you can tell the size of it from the photo, but its small enough to fit exactly into the palm of my hand. Melissa was kind enough to include two skeins of Vikki Clayton thread, some plum coloured jobelan fabric, hand cream and the cutest card! I feel lucky :)
Thank you also to all of you who have left comments about Sebastian.
I feel quite overwhelmed by the whole situation at the moment. In a way I feel as though I am grieving for the-Seb-who-could-have-been.
I know that people always triumph over adversity (given the right support) and I know that Seb has the kind of spiritedness and enthusiasm that will allow him to get past this.
At the same time I feel somehow responsible as though there is something I could have done differently that would have led to a different outcome.
Your support means a lot. We don't have any family nearby or anyone really with any kind of interest in what happens to us and our family. I think also that even if some of our family was nearby they would have little support to offer anyway!
My Mom knows about the situation and is supportive but she is so many many miles away. She gave me some good advice today which was to just understand that I can't do anything until I have more information and leave it at that. As a recovering alcoholic (six years sober) my Mom has really good advice and I should take it!
I keep thinking about Brad's mom who, when asked about how it was when Brad burnt his leg in a petrol fire aged 9 or 10 and had to endure months of painful skin grafts said 'It was a terrible time for me, I had to deal with this child in pain'. She seems to have no feeling for how it felt for Brad and how it impacted his whole psyche, only about how it felt for her. I don't want that to be me!
Comments
thats a lovely piece for exchange.. *hugs* You're all in my prayers :)
I can understand a bit why Brad's mother may have made that comment. As parents we work so hard to nurture and protect our children from harm. When they become injured or ill, no matter what the circumstances, on some level we feel responsible. We pick our brains trying to see if there was something we could have done differently, and we suffer watching them suffer, guilt upon guilt--wishing we could take the pain away, wishing it hadn't happened at all, wishing we knew what to do, burdened with our helplessness. So while it's true the kids are the ones actually living the experience and feeling the physical pain, it is very traumatic for parents, very psychologically painful. Don't feel badly because of your response.
Children, on the other hand, often seem to accept medical conditions and injuries fairly quickly and just move toward with getting better or getting well. I don't want to imply it's "easy" for them, but I think in many cases, it's not complicated. They just do what they have to do and go forward. They often make peace with their circumstances long before their parents do.
Hang in there. This is wrenching, but you're a great mum and you'll all get through it together.
I have to agree with what's above. I know it was always easier for me to go through the surgeries than it was for Mum to watch and deal with me afterwards! Remind yourself daily: you are not responsible for what has happened, but you can be responsible for how you deal with it.
wow, that was quick to comment on our lego...I just posted it! :)
I love the pincushion!
Hi Ash,
What a lovely biscornu you've received!! I really need to try making one of these. :D
Sending lots of good thoughts your way and prayers heavenward as you make your way through the medical maze with Seb.
Where can I find a pattern to make a biscornu?
I haven't seen a pattern as such, but there's a link in this post:
http://www.stitchedinholland.com/blog/archives/2006/05/ackworth_quaker.html
to a set of pictures which explain the process.
The important thing to remember is that you must have an identical number of stitches on all four sides of the backstitching. It helps for them to be an odd number so that the centre one that is used for anchoring the points gives a good angle.
Hope that helps.
Ash, I think you're doing an incredible job with Seb. You & Brad are just so super, and Seb is such an incredible kid. Though I can't imagine what you're going through, I can tell you that from the outside looking in, you are doing an amazing job!
May 22, 2006 3:00 PM